6 Little Words You Use Daily That Cripple Your Self-Esteem

Why the words you use matter so much.

How familiar are you with your internal dialogue when it comes to building self-esteem?

The language you use can have a profound impact on your self-image, how you show up in the world, and how you live your life.

Words have the power to shape your beliefs and influence your decisions and can either empower you to love yourself more or to feel awful. The way you express yourself, your choice of words, and your tone of voice create energy that either gives you power or takes it away, so it makes sense that using empowering words does more for your everyday life than perpetuating negative thoughts.Speech has the ability to change perception, so it's important to stop negative thoughts before they wear you out.

Making the conscious choice to eliminate disempowering words from your vocabulary can be transformative.

The language you choose can be limiting. You can change your beliefs by being mindful of how you talk. People often use disempowering words such as can’t, have, need, should, never, always, try, and but.

Negative words are taken for granted as part of your everyday communication and narrow your mind in a way that cuts you off from other options and possibilities. Additionally, disempowering words affect your feelings and behaviors.

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They diminish your ability to be the master of your destiny, create discomfort, and decrease the amount of energy you have to move forward in a fulfilling way.

Why is it beneficial to set the intention of consciously choosing to use empowering vocabulary? Using positive language will shift your energy levels, elevate your power, and help reduce resentment and drama in your life.

It will also enhance your ability to be a creator instead of a victim. You will become more open to options you didn’t see before. Implementing empowering language can enhance the strength and motivation you need to keep moving forward.

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Most people aren't too keen on uncertainty — they prefer stability, routine, and a sense of control over their lives.

Individuals crave steady ground to walk on, assurance that everything will be alright, a desire for safety and security, and the knowledge of how life will play out.

One thing's for sure — experiencing uncomfortable emotions and uncertainty is a natural part of life.

During challenging periods and uncertain times, such as the current COVID-19 pandemic, it's important to take the time to sit with the uncertainty and focus on what can be controlled.

The L.E.A.N. Framework is a useful tool to help guide you through challenging times.

Most people like stability, routine, and a sense of control over their lives. Individuals crave some steady ground to walk on, assurance that everything will be alright, a desire for safety and security, and the knowledge of how life will play out. One thing is for sure, experiencing uncomfortable emotions and uncertainty is a natural part of life. During challenging periods such as divorce or Covid-19, it is important to take the time to sit with the uncertainty and to focus on what can be controlled. Acting impulsively to escape or deny the discomfort has the potential of causing additional detrimental consequences. Intentionally shifting to more adaptive healthier strategies to deal with uncertainty can teach important life lessons that lead to a more peaceful and productive life. The L.E.A.N. framework (Let it Be, Empower, Accept, and Nourish), when implemented, creates an awareness of the skills needed to move through the challenge in an effective way.

Acting on impulse during challenging times can result in unfavorable solutions. Creating space for acceptance, awareness, and a plan of action will help you experience a well thought out response to life's trials and tribulations.